Great Sex Starts Here

As a Relationship and Sex Coach for Grownups, I help you get in touch with your body and sexuality so you can talk openly, be present in your relationships, and experience the kind of sex and intimacy that has you smiling the whole next day.
LET'S BEGIN

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Where to begin

Start your journey with any of these powerful tools

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FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF

A free vibrator guide so you can explore your sexuality and expand your confidence
YES, I NEED THAT!
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FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER

A free cheat sheet so you can reignite the spark and try new things with your partner
GIVE IT TO ME!!
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FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR KIDS

A free fill-in-the-blank script so you can talk with your kid about sex in the most positive way
SIGN ME UP!!
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Where You Find Answers

"...Asking For A Friend™" FAQs

Here’s where you go to find a searchable database of nearly 1k relationship and sex questions I have answered from my students and the public. The questions are in their raw form and have not been changed. 18+ only please.

To "...ASKING FOR A FRIEND"


If you can get the sex you want, you'll get the life you want.

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What You Can Achieve

Talking about sex can be awkward, difficult, and embarrassing.

From positions to pleasure, there are sooo many concepts you didn’t learn in school.

(In fact, when’s the last time you took sex ed? For most of us, it was some time in junior high. You’ve changed a lot since then - shouldn’t your attitudes change, too?)

As a woman, you know the culture treats us differently around sexuality. Sexual health IS health and you must know this for yourself.If you’re a mom and you haven't learned this for yourself, how tough will it be to teach your kids knowing this is how they can grow up safe, happy, and healthy, too?

It all adds up to a lot of talk about sex.

The good news? Sex talk doesn’t have to make you feel nervous anymore - as a sex coach, I’m here to help.

SET UP A CALL

How to begin working together?

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Coaching

For yourself or with a partner, this first step is a phone call. Like virtual coffee date.

DISCOVERY CALL
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Courses

Courses you can do in a weekend to get you one step closer to that intimacy you want.

TO COURSES
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Books

Easy reads about sexuality so you can unlearn the nonsense and step in to healthier relationships.
TO THE BOOKS

Sexual Health is Health

Lanae St. John

Meet The MamaSutra

Hello, I'm Lanae,

... founder of The MamaSutra. As a relationship and sex coach for grownups, I help adults of all genders connect to their own sexual health and their partner by discovering how to explore sex and intimacy - and feel comfortable talking about it (so comfortable in fact, talking about sex with their kids has become easy).

There is SO MUCH PRESSURE and expectation that you have to know everything. It's nerve wracking to try to gain experience in an area that is new. As a result, you might feel alone, disconnected, and uncomfortable. You have a vision for your relationships but nothing is changing, and you feel this is going to be the rest of your life: living just on the edge of discovery.

And I'm here to help you change all that.

READ LANAE'S BIO

What my clients and students are saying

B.S.

Client

Lanae’s coaching style is warm and welcoming, and my partner and I felt encouraged to open up and talk about sex in new ways. It’s helped us to become more transparent and communicative with each other, while also looking forward to growing more together in the future.

K.B.

Client

“I had been having issues getting and maintaining erections, and I connected with Lanae. […] She was always knowledgeable, compassionate, kind, and even fun; I actually looked forward to our sessions. I am now having tremendously good sex with my partner, and no erectile problems at all.”

C.C.

Client

“I had not been able to enjoy sex since college and it made me want to avoid the encounters altogether. […] Lanae helped me identify what I didn’t like about sex and never judged or made me feel uncomfortable talking about it. She encouraged me to try different things and to find different ways to change my view of sex altogether.”

E.R.

Student

“After taking this class, I have spoken to my kids about topics I never thought I would; and it’s a great feeling. I respect their points of view or choices. I try to be supportive and understanding.”

A.R.

Student

“My life has changed after taking this class. I have better communication with my husband and children. I can talk to them about anything.”

B.H.

Student

“I feel more confident as a person & woman. I view sex so much differently; it’s normal! It is important that our youth view it as healthy when all parties are in agreement.”

A.R.

Student

“Throughout the semester I would come home and share what I learned. One day, I said, “Let’s talk about dicks today.” My relationship with my kids is way better. I would learn and so would they.”

M.W.

Student

“My life has been changed by this class in helping me to open up and deal with my own sexuality. I look at my body differently and I’m more conscious of what pleases me.”

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tl;dr

This is where you select your next step in working with a relationship and sex coach for grownups...

FOR YOU ALONE

To explore your sexuality and expand your confidence
YES, I NEED THAT!

FOR YOU & YOUR RELATIONSHIP

To try something fun and new with your partner
GIVE IT TO ME!!

FOR YOU & YOUR KIDS

To talk about sex without talking about sex
SIGN ME UP!!
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