A Great HuffPo Article “He Said, She Said: 10 Things We Wish Sex Ed Taught Us”

Posted in   Dr. Lanae   on  November 9, 2013 by  Lanae minutes remaining

I am really fortunate to have some really amazing colleagues in this field. Recently, the CEO of Lucky Bloke Condoms wrote to me and asked for my input on an article. She was polling sex educators, activists, and sexperts for their thoughts on “Things I Should Have Been Taught in SexEd”. What resulted was this article on www.huffingtonpost.com.


Yours truly is listed in that article at number 10. My complete response was as follows:

In America, a lot of parents seem to overlook teaching about Consent when they talk to their children. They don’t seem to think of it as something that relates to sex, and therefore, they forget or neglect to teach about it. It is, however, very important for children to learn about boundaries. Children need to learn to able to say “yes”, “no” and to know how to accept the answer when someone says “no” – this includes no negotiating, nagging, or persisting. Children also need to learn the importance of “Do No Harm” as it relates to someone or something else. Teach them if it doesn’t feel good then they have the right to have the activity stop. If you think about this in terms of when kids are roughhousing or tickling – if someone is tickling and it’s too much, sometimes adults forget this and persist until the child is disturbed or upset. Kids need to know when to stop and when to speak up as well. Practicing this helps them when they are 2, 12, or 22 years of age. Learning about Consent is a skill they will use throughout their lives.

I hope you enjoy this article. There are some amazing nuggets of wisdom from really amazing sexperts in there. I hope someday that these bits of inspiration truly are taught in sexuality education.


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About the Author Lanae

Dr. Lanae St.John is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology and certified sex coach with a background in sexology and a passion for helping people improve their sexual health and relationships. She is the author of "Read Me: A Parental Primer for "The Talk"" and the upcoming "You Are the One: How stopping the search and looking inside will lead you to your romantic destiny," and is committed to staying up-to-date on the latest research and trends in the field. Dr. St.John aims to share her knowledge and expertise in a relatable and approachable way through her blog on themamasutra.com.

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