Buy Myself a Husband

Posted in   Blog, Dr. Lanae   on  November 13, 2023 by  The MamaSutra minutes remaining

Lessons from a Pillow Shopping Trip

So, I’ve got a funny story for you. My daughter Marcia and her grandma were cruising the aisles at Target when they bumped into those funky reading pillows – you know, the kind with a high back and arms that almost give you a hug?

Marcia had seen them before and thought they were pretty cool. Grandma mentioned something hilarious; She said my sister (Marcia’s aunt) and her friends in college used to call these pillows “husbands.” Marcia, ever the quick wit, declared,

“Okay, then I’m buying myself a husband!”

This little moment got me chuckling, but it also sparked some real talk about how we view relationships these days.

Pillow Talk and Relationship Labels:

Isn’t it hilarious how we slap relationship labels on random stuff? A cozy pillow becomes a ‘husband’ because it gives you a comfy shoulder to lean on. It’s funny, sure, but it also says something about what we expect in relationships. These small, quirky things can really shine a light on the bigger picture of how we see companionship.

Generation Gap in the Dating Game:

Now, here’s where things get interesting. There’s a whole new vibe to relationships with folks like Marcia’s generation. They’re shaking things up, rethinking what it means to be with someone, and how. It’s a whole different ballgame from what Grandma experienced, and it’s pretty cool to see how things are changing.

Solo and Rocking It:

Marcia joking about getting a husband from the store? That’s more than just a witty comeback. It’s about being cool with being on your own, finding your own kind of comfort and support. It’s a big thumbs up to being independent and loving it.

What’s Your Relationship Flavor?

Knowing yourself, what you want, and what you’re all about – that’s the secret sauce to great relationships. It’s not just about finding someone to fill a gap; it’s about knowing what you bring to the table and finding someone who digs that.

Wrapping It Up:

So there you have it – a simple shopping trip turning into a light-hearted lesson on love and relationships. It’s all about embracing the changes, finding your groove, and remembering to laugh along the way.


About the Author The MamaSutra

Dr. Lanae St.John is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology and certified sex coach with a background in sexology and a passion for helping people improve their sexual health and relationships. She is the author of "Read Me: A Parental Primer for "The Talk"" and the upcoming "You Are the One: How stopping the search and looking inside will lead you to your romantic destiny," and is committed to staying up-to-date on the latest research and trends in the field. Dr. St.John aims to share her knowledge and expertise in a relatable and approachable way through her blog on

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