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Let me clarify first, I have no experience marrying a divorcee Indian lady. I am a divorcee Native American (we were called American Indians, when I was growing up). But I'm not yet remarried either. Some caveats: I can't speak for all divorcees, nor all Native women either. And this advice isn't limited to folks who are interested in divorcees. If you've never been married, check to see that you have realistic expectations about what marriage is. Where did you get the messages ? Are they helpful or harmful? Also, make sure your communication skills are TOP NOTCH. There's no shame in getting help from a couples counselor or therapist early on if you need it - it's like getting a tune up on your car and can be really worth the money. No marriage is like a Hollywood movie with fairy tale endings. There will be problems and disappointments. If you notice resentment building, figure out where it comes from and work through it. Don't let it build up. If you let it and the dam finally breaks, it's going to suck. If you are marrying a divorcee (and especially if she has kids), she may also have an ex-husband in the picture. Hopefully that relationship is respectful and focused on the common good for the kids, and not using the kids to get back at each other. You may need to be emotionally supportive to her if it's not. And if there are kids, be kind and compassionate to them. Those are just a few thoughts. I?m not sure if that's what you wanted from me but it's the best I could do at answering your question.


Published Date : 7/23/2018

Let me clarify first, I have no experience marrying a divorcee Indian lady. I am a divorcee Native American (we were called American Indians, when I was growing up). But I'm not yet remarried either. Some caveats: I can't speak for all divorcees, nor all Native women either. And this advice isn't limited to folks who are interested in divorcees. If you've never been married, check to see that you have realistic expectations about what marriage is. Where did you get the messages ? Are they helpful or harmful? Also, make sure your communication skills are TOP NOTCH. There's no shame in getting help from a couples counselor or therapist early on if you need it - it's like getting a tune up on your car and can be really worth the money. No marriage is like a Hollywood movie with fairy tale endings. There will be problems and disappointments. If you notice resentment building, figure out where it comes from and work through it. Don't let it build up. If you let it and the dam finally breaks, it's going to suck. If you are marrying a divorcee (and especially if she has kids), she may also have an ex-husband in the picture. Hopefully that relationship is respectful and focused on the common good for the kids, and not using the kids to get back at each other. You may need to be emotionally supportive to her if it's not. And if there are kids, be kind and compassionate to them. Those are just a few thoughts. I?m not sure if that's what you wanted from me but it's the best I could do at answering your question.


Published Date : 7/23/2018

No, it's not weird to fantasize about becoming a girl for a few days. Doing so, you may develop a greater understanding, empathy, or compassion for girls/women than you had before. And you may also realize how much work some women put into becoming a human female.? You know, it's sad that girls are able to dress like boys with little repercussions but boys dressing like girls can be dangerous. Fantasies can be tricky. Sometimes they're not so practical to act out. Or it may not be safe to do so. Homophobia is a real thing and queer and trans teens experience a lot of hate, bullying and sometimes worse. I wouldn't wish this backlash on anyone. <>. This is one of this situations that I wish Quora wasn't anonymous because I'd love to hear about what you learn. Be safe.


Published Date : 7/9/2018

No, it's not weird to fantasize about becoming a girl for a few days. Doing so, you may develop a greater understanding, empathy, or compassion for girls/women than you had before. And you may also realize how much work some women put into becoming a human female.? You know, it's sad that girls are able to dress like boys with little repercussions but boys dressing like girls can be dangerous. Fantasies can be tricky. Sometimes they're not so practical to act out. Or it may not be safe to do so. Homophobia is a real thing and queer and trans teens experience a lot of hate, bullying and sometimes worse. I wouldn't wish this backlash on anyone. <>. This is one of this situations that I wish Quora wasn't anonymous because I'd love to hear about what you learn. Be safe.


Published Date : 7/9/2018

Lube.

Use lube. Lubrication is a good thing and there's no shame in using it. Anyone who might shame you for using it is an uninformed jerk (besides, guys use it to beat off so why shouldn't we??)

There are all kinds of lube out there for all kinds of acts/situations/preferences. Here's a comprehensive guide to what's what:

http://www.thecsph.org/adultsexe...

Some sex stores provide samples to try before you buy. Bonus tip, some of the lube like silicone lube can be used on bike chains too! #mundaneable

There are lots of contributing factors for why a person might need lube - diet, medications, aging, etc. Get used to using it before you should need it


Published Date : 11/28/2018

Lube.

Use lube. Lubrication is a good thing and there's no shame in using it. Anyone who might shame you for using it is an uninformed jerk (besides, guys use it to beat off so why shouldn't we??)

There are all kinds of lube out there for all kinds of acts/situations/preferences. Here's a comprehensive guide to what's what:

http://www.thecsph.org/adultsexe...

Some sex stores provide samples to try before you buy. Bonus tip, some of the lube like silicone lube can be used on bike chains too! #mundaneable

There are lots of contributing factors for why a person might need lube - diet, medications, aging, etc. Get used to using it before you should need it


Published Date : 11/28/2018

There is no answer for this. It is up to you. You can stay a virgin for as LONG AS YOU WANT.

Your body belongs to you and you get to choose what you want to do with it. You can color, curl, or straighten your hair, or not. You can shave hair off parts of it, or not. You can explore your body, or not. Totally up to you.

If anyone gives you a hard time about any of your choices, they are not your friend. If anyone pressures you, that is coercion - you can push back and refuse because your body doesn't have to put up with bullies. Inside you're a badass woman who just hasn't blossomed yet. Using your voice to say no when stuff like that happens is how you get closer and closer to your Inner Badass.

Signed,

An elder badass woman, who was much older than you are now when she finally had sexual intercourse for the first time (and I didn't use my voice then when I should have).


Published Date : 9/13/2018

There is no answer for this. It is up to you. You can stay a virgin for as LONG AS YOU WANT.

Your body belongs to you and you get to choose what you want to do with it. You can color, curl, or straighten your hair, or not. You can shave hair off parts of it, or not. You can explore your body, or not. Totally up to you.

If anyone gives you a hard time about any of your choices, they are not your friend. If anyone pressures you, that is coercion - you can push back and refuse because your body doesn't have to put up with bullies. Inside you're a badass woman who just hasn't blossomed yet. Using your voice to say no when stuff like that happens is how you get closer and closer to your Inner Badass.

Signed,

An elder badass woman, who was much older than you are now when she finally had sexual intercourse for the first time (and I didn't use my voice then when I should have).


Published Date : 9/13/2018

Thank you for the A2A

Boy, is this a contentious topic. Even David Beckham got a lot of heat for doing this.

Let's start with defining the behavior. Closed mouth kissing on the lips of the face is not SEX. Sure, kisses are intimate but they're not always sexual.

What does it say about a culture that views parents innocently kissing their children and looks at it as inappropriate? In my mind, it's waaay too fixated on sexualizing children and hyper scared of pedophiles. Yet when pedophilia is actually happening, folks don?t do anything!

I want to be clear. None of the kisses I see parents do are open mouthed, nor deep kissing or French kissing with tongue. That's crossing a definite line. As long as the parents aren't doing that or otherwise ushering in their children into sexual situations, I see no harm in a simple kiss (on the lips of their face).

The child may get embarrassed and decide when to stop kissing their parents. It's up to the family to decide, including the child. Some will kiss, others won't.


Published Date : 7/9/2019

Thank you for the A2A

Boy, is this a contentious topic. Even David Beckham got a lot of heat for doing this.

Let's start with defining the behavior. Closed mouth kissing on the lips of the face is not SEX. Sure, kisses are intimate but they're not always sexual.

What does it say about a culture that views parents innocently kissing their children and looks at it as inappropriate? In my mind, it's waaay too fixated on sexualizing children and hyper scared of pedophiles. Yet when pedophilia is actually happening, folks don?t do anything!

I want to be clear. None of the kisses I see parents do are open mouthed, nor deep kissing or French kissing with tongue. That's crossing a definite line. As long as the parents aren't doing that or otherwise ushering in their children into sexual situations, I see no harm in a simple kiss (on the lips of their face).

The child may get embarrassed and decide when to stop kissing their parents. It's up to the family to decide, including the child. Some will kiss, others won't.


Published Date : 7/9/2019

(Omg these questions crack me up.)

Honey, sh!t whenever and where ever you have to. If you marry this person, you cannot tell me you're gonna go to the neighbors whenever they're home and you have to take a dump.

Any reasonable person will understand that you have *gasp* bowel movements just like any other human does. If they think you shouldn't, then run away from this weirdo.

(This must be an age thing because I don't know any 40-year old women who would give an actual fuck about this)

If it bothers you so much, get that Poo Pourri spray but for Gods sake, poop whenever you like. Perhaps the two of you can have a laugh about it.


Published Date : 3/20/2019

(Omg these questions crack me up.)

Honey, sh!t whenever and where ever you have to. If you marry this person, you cannot tell me you're gonna go to the neighbors whenever they're home and you have to take a dump.

Any reasonable person will understand that you have *gasp* bowel movements just like any other human does. If they think you shouldn't, then run away from this weirdo.

(This must be an age thing because I don't know any 40-year old women who would give an actual fuck about this)

If it bothers you so much, get that Poo Pourri spray but for Gods sake, poop whenever you like. Perhaps the two of you can have a laugh about it.


Published Date : 3/20/2019

At the point they bring the subject out in the open for discussion.

But the other person is in no obligation to agree and if they do agree, it's up to them to respect that relationship agreement.

It's not a good idea to expect anything without a discussion, otherwise you set yourself up for disappointment.


Published Date : 12/5/2018

At the point they bring the subject out in the open for discussion.

But the other person is in no obligation to agree and if they do agree, it's up to them to respect that relationship agreement.

It's not a good idea to expect anything without a discussion, otherwise you set yourself up for disappointment.


Published Date : 12/5/2018

I don't have a son, but if I did and he were 15 years old, it would scare me if he could not hold a mature conversation with an adult. Doubly so if he couldn't communicate with kids his own age.

Small talk and communication skills are valuable skills we all need.


Published Date : 11/18/2018

I don't have a son, but if I did and he were 15 years old, it would scare me if he could not hold a mature conversation with an adult. Doubly so if he couldn't communicate with kids his own age.

Small talk and communication skills are valuable skills we all need.


Published Date : 11/18/2018

No. Typically genetically male boys do not possess the internal plumbing to gestate babies (ovaries, fallopian tubes, and uterus) AND the internal plumbing required for spermatogenesis (the hardware that produces sperm - testicles, epididymus, vas deferens, seminal vesicle, etc). But there are rare instances of intersex babies having one ovary and one testes. ?True hermaphroditism, a rare and usually sporadic disorder, is defined as the coexistence of seminiferous tubules and ovarian follicles. Most patients have an ovotestis with either an ovary or a testis on the opposite side; a gonad in the scrotum is usually a testis but may be an ovotestis.? Disorders of Sexual Development It?s very very rare for both sets of the internal reproductive organs to fully develop. My understanding is the SRY gene (key during that point in the in-uterine development for sexual differentiation) is missing or dormant and so the development of the internal reproductive organs follows more the ?female? route. Here is a fast, less than 2 minute clip about sexual differentiation in utero. Hope this helps.


Published Date : 7/18/2018

No. Typically genetically male boys do not possess the internal plumbing to gestate babies (ovaries, fallopian tubes, and uterus) AND the internal plumbing required for spermatogenesis (the hardware that produces sperm - testicles, epididymus, vas deferens, seminal vesicle, etc). But there are rare instances of intersex babies having one ovary and one testes. ?True hermaphroditism, a rare and usually sporadic disorder, is defined as the coexistence of seminiferous tubules and ovarian follicles. Most patients have an ovotestis with either an ovary or a testis on the opposite side; a gonad in the scrotum is usually a testis but may be an ovotestis.? Disorders of Sexual Development It?s very very rare for both sets of the internal reproductive organs to fully develop. My understanding is the SRY gene (key during that point in the in-uterine development for sexual differentiation) is missing or dormant and so the development of the internal reproductive organs follows more the ?female? route. Here is a fast, less than 2 minute clip about sexual differentiation in utero. Hope this helps.


Published Date : 7/18/2018

OH YES! And finding her happiness is good for her child too.

It'll be rough at times. I'm not gonna lie. There is so much to explore about yourself in that post divorce time! And it's all about YOU and your pleasure/interests.

Hopefully, you have help; you may need time or space to figure out what you like so if you have a very reliable babysitter who is like family, even better


Published Date : 10/15/2018

OH YES! And finding her happiness is good for her child too.

It'll be rough at times. I'm not gonna lie. There is so much to explore about yourself in that post divorce time! And it's all about YOU and your pleasure/interests.

Hopefully, you have help; you may need time or space to figure out what you like so if you have a very reliable babysitter who is like family, even better


Published Date : 10/15/2018

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