Yes. But not always.
If the men are in the other room when she has the orgasm and she isn?t ashamed of making any noise, then they will know when a woman has an orgasm by the auditory vocalizations (moaning) at climax.
One of the signs that we humans are getting to that point is if the ?sex flush? shows up on the face and/or torso. This is vasocongestion and it kinda looks like a rash but it goes away after the arousal subsides.
(I?ve heard experts say it takes a woman roughly 20 minutes of decent stimulation to become fully aroused. So sticking it in as soon as you get hard is NOT going to do the trick.)
If a man is actively involved when the orgasm happens then he may be able to tell if he?s paying attention to what?s going on around him. For example, if his fingers are inside her vagina at the moment of climax, he may be able to detect the muscular contractions of the vaginal walls gently squeezing his fingers. Same thing for his penis if it?s inside her at the moment.
Each person is going to be slightly different so pay attention to your particular partner?s signs.
If you?re asking for this information to see if your partner is deceiving you, consider that they may have lots of feelings around orgasm (and there?s a HUGE spectrum of feelings, like she feels it takes too long, or she wants to make you feel like you?re doing a good job, or she may fake it to get it over with). The question becomes, how safe of a person are you for her to open up to you about how she feels?
Google ?Orgasm Gap? for information on how heterosexual women have the least orgasms of any sexual orientation. It?s pretty sad.
I?ve said all of this but I have to add: orgasm should NOT be the goal. Pleasure, feeling good, fun, and exploration can be better goals. Orgasm can be a stop (or 2 or 3?) along the way but not the destination.
Happy exploring!
Yes. But not always.
If the men are in the other room when she has the orgasm and she isn?t ashamed of making any noise, then they will know when a woman has an orgasm by the auditory vocalizations (moaning) at climax.
One of the signs that we humans are getting to that point is if the ?sex flush? shows up on the face and/or torso. This is vasocongestion and it kinda looks like a rash but it goes away after the arousal subsides.
(I?ve heard experts say it takes a woman roughly 20 minutes of decent stimulation to become fully aroused. So sticking it in as soon as you get hard is NOT going to do the trick.)
If a man is actively involved when the orgasm happens then he may be able to tell if he?s paying attention to what?s going on around him. For example, if his fingers are inside her vagina at the moment of climax, he may be able to detect the muscular contractions of the vaginal walls gently squeezing his fingers. Same thing for his penis if it?s inside her at the moment.
Each person is going to be slightly different so pay attention to your particular partner?s signs.
If you?re asking for this information to see if your partner is deceiving you, consider that they may have lots of feelings around orgasm (and there?s a HUGE spectrum of feelings, like she feels it takes too long, or she wants to make you feel like you?re doing a good job, or she may fake it to get it over with). The question becomes, how safe of a person are you for her to open up to you about how she feels?
Google ?Orgasm Gap? for information on how heterosexual women have the least orgasms of any sexual orientation. It?s pretty sad.
I?ve said all of this but I have to add: orgasm should NOT be the goal. Pleasure, feeling good, fun, and exploration can be better goals. Orgasm can be a stop (or 2 or 3?) along the way but not the destination.
Happy exploring!
Yes, she could get pregnant anytime you cum in her. Birth control isn't ever a 100% guarantee against pregnancy even with perfect and best use.
If she is using hormonal or non-hormonal birth control you could use a condom as well to double your protection from pregnancy. Some forms of BC work better together than others. Ask your doctor for suggestions that work best for you to avoid pregnancy.
Yes, she could get pregnant anytime you cum in her. Birth control isn't ever a 100% guarantee against pregnancy even with perfect and best use.
If she is using hormonal or non-hormonal birth control you could use a condom as well to double your protection from pregnancy. Some forms of BC work better together than others. Ask your doctor for suggestions that work best for you to avoid pregnancy.
I don't know about elsewhere but lots of people focus their attention on the feeling of pleasure while they're approaching the point of orgasm. That's what gets some people off.
If by elsewhere you mean not thinking about bills, work, yard work, family squabbles, etc, then YES.
I don't know about elsewhere but lots of people focus their attention on the feeling of pleasure while they're approaching the point of orgasm. That's what gets some people off.
If by elsewhere you mean not thinking about bills, work, yard work, family squabbles, etc, then YES.
(I'm assuming it's a man asking this question because women don't ask about stamina.)
My best advice is to actually ignore your penis and focus wholly on the pleasure of your partner first. Make that your sole focus. Be selfless in bed. This means open your mind up to acts outside of your penis? involvement - think hands, mouth, tongue, breath. Because I predict as soon as you see the enjoyment of your partner, your stamina will increase.
Have fun.
(I'm assuming it's a man asking this question because women don't ask about stamina.)
My best advice is to actually ignore your penis and focus wholly on the pleasure of your partner first. Make that your sole focus. Be selfless in bed. This means open your mind up to acts outside of your penis? involvement - think hands, mouth, tongue, breath. Because I predict as soon as you see the enjoyment of your partner, your stamina will increase.
Have fun.
Yes, I have been with someone who could orgasm again fairly quickly after the first. Actually, I've known 2 different penis-owning partners with this ability. Perhaps there were more who could but I was not privy to this at the time.
What was the experience like? It was quite nice actually.
It's possible to develop this skill too. I used to talk to my students about this in my pleasure-centered SEX Ed classes.
Yes, I have been with someone who could orgasm again fairly quickly after the first. Actually, I've known 2 different penis-owning partners with this ability. Perhaps there were more who could but I was not privy to this at the time.
What was the experience like? It was quite nice actually.
It's possible to develop this skill too. I used to talk to my students about this in my pleasure-centered SEX Ed classes.
Omg. *eyeroll*
*POOF* There. You're a virgin again.
But honestly, you're 15, already having sex, and still haven't learned that virginity is a social construct. You poor thing. How society has manipulated you.
If I were your age, I'd stop having sex with others and concentrate my sexual energy on masturbation such that I always finish and don't rely on others for my pleasure.
Omg. *eyeroll*
*POOF* There. You're a virgin again.
But honestly, you're 15, already having sex, and still haven't learned that virginity is a social construct. You poor thing. How society has manipulated you.
If I were your age, I'd stop having sex with others and concentrate my sexual energy on masturbation such that I always finish and don't rely on others for my pleasure.
There are plenty of ways to look at this. The easy answer is this: it's only a problem if YOU think it's a problem. You could ask 100 people and get a range of responses who will tell you some variation of their conscious or unconscious beliefs. For example, those who may not orgasm as often or at all may judge the number of orgasms you have. Others might say to enjoy it while it lasts as hormones, aging, medications, exercise/fitness level, and other factors can change that in a flash. Others might label you a slut?, ?sex addict?. Ignore responses of people who do not have a background where they were educated in sexual health. Sh*tty opinions on this topic will do the most damage. On a bit of a related tangent, I have this hypothesis that when our TOUCH needs are met we have less urge to seek out opportunities to get it on and be sexual. There's also a component of security (defined as the opposite of insecurity) that plays in here somewhere as well. It's still in the rough draft phase and I'm still forming it into a theory. I see this play out in stable, long term relationships whose frequency of sex decreases and yet they don't have any problem with how often they have sex, even if it's 1x/week, or 1x/month, or 1x/year. The only time it becomes a problem (usually) is when one of them notices the lack and wants it to change but isn't sure how to raise the subject or the partner judges them for wanting more. All that to say, there are definitely people who have a high sex drive. And that's okay. If you are still really concerned that you have a problem, please seek out a sex positive physician who has experience with issues of arousal and/or orgasm phase concerns. Maybe someone who is a member of ISSWSH (International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health) - I just realized I assumed you are a woman. I made the assumption since some women are naturally able to have multiple orgasms (and a few men dedicate time and energy learning how to). I acknowledge this assumption and apologize in advance if this assumption is incorrect. I hope this helps you. ,
There are plenty of ways to look at this. The easy answer is this: it's only a problem if YOU think it's a problem. You could ask 100 people and get a range of responses who will tell you some variation of their conscious or unconscious beliefs. For example, those who may not orgasm as often or at all may judge the number of orgasms you have. Others might say to enjoy it while it lasts as hormones, aging, medications, exercise/fitness level, and other factors can change that in a flash. Others might label you a slut?, ?sex addict?. Ignore responses of people who do not have a background where they were educated in sexual health. Sh*tty opinions on this topic will do the most damage. On a bit of a related tangent, I have this hypothesis that when our TOUCH needs are met we have less urge to seek out opportunities to get it on and be sexual. There's also a component of security (defined as the opposite of insecurity) that plays in here somewhere as well. It's still in the rough draft phase and I'm still forming it into a theory. I see this play out in stable, long term relationships whose frequency of sex decreases and yet they don't have any problem with how often they have sex, even if it's 1x/week, or 1x/month, or 1x/year. The only time it becomes a problem (usually) is when one of them notices the lack and wants it to change but isn't sure how to raise the subject or the partner judges them for wanting more. All that to say, there are definitely people who have a high sex drive. And that's okay. If you are still really concerned that you have a problem, please seek out a sex positive physician who has experience with issues of arousal and/or orgasm phase concerns. Maybe someone who is a member of ISSWSH (International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health) - I just realized I assumed you are a woman. I made the assumption since some women are naturally able to have multiple orgasms (and a few men dedicate time and energy learning how to). I acknowledge this assumption and apologize in advance if this assumption is incorrect. I hope this helps you. ,
Honestly, I'm not sure it's fair to put these on the same scale
- the actual orgasm itself can be relatively brief -
but I would have to say right up there at the top of my list is Touch.?
Affectionate, warm, loving, reciprocated, connected touch feels really very nice.
It doesn't even need to be a sexual touch. Not even with a romantic or sexual partner. Just someone who can attend to your needs.
That feels pretty d*mn good.
Honestly, I'm not sure it's fair to put these on the same scale
- the actual orgasm itself can be relatively brief -
but I would have to say right up there at the top of my list is Touch.?
Affectionate, warm, loving, reciprocated, connected touch feels really very nice.
It doesn't even need to be a sexual touch. Not even with a romantic or sexual partner. Just someone who can attend to your needs.
That feels pretty d*mn good.