No, it's not weird to fantasize about becoming a girl for a few days. Doing so, you may develop a greater understanding, empathy, or compassion for girls/women than you had before. And you may also realize how much work some women put into becoming a human female.? You know, it's sad that girls are able to dress like boys with little repercussions but boys dressing like girls can be dangerous. Fantasies can be tricky. Sometimes they're not so practical to act out. Or it may not be safe to do so. Homophobia is a real thing and queer and trans teens experience a lot of hate, bullying and sometimes worse. I wouldn't wish this backlash on anyone. <
No, it's not weird to fantasize about becoming a girl for a few days. Doing so, you may develop a greater understanding, empathy, or compassion for girls/women than you had before. And you may also realize how much work some women put into becoming a human female.? You know, it's sad that girls are able to dress like boys with little repercussions but boys dressing like girls can be dangerous. Fantasies can be tricky. Sometimes they're not so practical to act out. Or it may not be safe to do so. Homophobia is a real thing and queer and trans teens experience a lot of hate, bullying and sometimes worse. I wouldn't wish this backlash on anyone. <
There is no answer for this. It is up to you. You can stay a virgin for as LONG AS YOU WANT.
Your body belongs to you and you get to choose what you want to do with it. You can color, curl, or straighten your hair, or not. You can shave hair off parts of it, or not. You can explore your body, or not. Totally up to you.
If anyone gives you a hard time about any of your choices, they are not your friend. If anyone pressures you, that is coercion - you can push back and refuse because your body doesn't have to put up with bullies. Inside you're a badass woman who just hasn't blossomed yet. Using your voice to say no when stuff like that happens is how you get closer and closer to your Inner Badass.
Signed,
An elder badass woman, who was much older than you are now when she finally had sexual intercourse for the first time (and I didn't use my voice then when I should have).
There is no answer for this. It is up to you. You can stay a virgin for as LONG AS YOU WANT.
Your body belongs to you and you get to choose what you want to do with it. You can color, curl, or straighten your hair, or not. You can shave hair off parts of it, or not. You can explore your body, or not. Totally up to you.
If anyone gives you a hard time about any of your choices, they are not your friend. If anyone pressures you, that is coercion - you can push back and refuse because your body doesn't have to put up with bullies. Inside you're a badass woman who just hasn't blossomed yet. Using your voice to say no when stuff like that happens is how you get closer and closer to your Inner Badass.
Signed,
An elder badass woman, who was much older than you are now when she finally had sexual intercourse for the first time (and I didn't use my voice then when I should have).
I don't have a son, but if I did and he were 15 years old, it would scare me if he could not hold a mature conversation with an adult. Doubly so if he couldn't communicate with kids his own age.
Small talk and communication skills are valuable skills we all need.
I don't have a son, but if I did and he were 15 years old, it would scare me if he could not hold a mature conversation with an adult. Doubly so if he couldn't communicate with kids his own age.
Small talk and communication skills are valuable skills we all need.
Yes, a young girl can get pregnant.
Usually a first indicator of fertility is a menstrual period. About 10% of girls can get their periods as early as 9 years old these days. But if she is raped or otherwise the target of unwanted sexual attention and hasn?t yet had her period, it?s possible she can get pregnant if her body is ready to begin.
But getting pregnant at this age is a terrible idea in my opinion. We need to protect them from going through such experiences at this young age. Let them have their childhood.
Yes, a young girl can get pregnant.
Usually a first indicator of fertility is a menstrual period. About 10% of girls can get their periods as early as 9 years old these days. But if she is raped or otherwise the target of unwanted sexual attention and hasn?t yet had her period, it?s possible she can get pregnant if her body is ready to begin.
But getting pregnant at this age is a terrible idea in my opinion. We need to protect them from going through such experiences at this young age. Let them have their childhood.
No. I'm not wearing any now.
Sometimes I wear a little lip gloss and some mascara. Other days a full face (but even then my full face is not fresh-out-of-Sephora full face).
I know some women won't go out without a minimum amount on their faces, and that's okay too. To each, her own.
No. I'm not wearing any now.
Sometimes I wear a little lip gloss and some mascara. Other days a full face (but even then my full face is not fresh-out-of-Sephora full face).
I know some women won't go out without a minimum amount on their faces, and that's okay too. To each, her own.
Can you articulate what you mean by wrong crowd?? If you can define it then you can begin to talk to your child. What does it mean to hang with the wrong crowd? What are the ramifications or consequences?
You may be making assumptions based on your past experiences. Be ready to own that. And be mindful that sometimes those kids you think are the good kids? might not be so good (I'm not naming names here).
You could invite them all or one by one to come over and hang out with the family. You'll get a sense of how they behave and if they really are the wrong crowd.?
Can you articulate what you mean by wrong crowd?? If you can define it then you can begin to talk to your child. What does it mean to hang with the wrong crowd? What are the ramifications or consequences?
You may be making assumptions based on your past experiences. Be ready to own that. And be mindful that sometimes those kids you think are the good kids? might not be so good (I'm not naming names here).
You could invite them all or one by one to come over and hang out with the family. You'll get a sense of how they behave and if they really are the wrong crowd.?
Short answer: YES. I'd rather have my daughters learn about what feels good to them in their bodies before they begin to have encounters with others. I would never want them to rely on another person to give them pleasure like I did (I thought the first man to give me an orgasm was magic. Spoiler alert: he wasn't). Explore your own body on your terms. It's yours after all. Figure out what feels good and what doesn't. Also, feel free to grab a mirror and look at your vulva and do a genital self-exam to see what everything looks like down there. (My latest blog post is on this subject). Get used to it. Then, if you notice any changes, you can bring it up with confidence to your physician.
Short answer: YES. I'd rather have my daughters learn about what feels good to them in their bodies before they begin to have encounters with others. I would never want them to rely on another person to give them pleasure like I did (I thought the first man to give me an orgasm was magic. Spoiler alert: he wasn't). Explore your own body on your terms. It's yours after all. Figure out what feels good and what doesn't. Also, feel free to grab a mirror and look at your vulva and do a genital self-exam to see what everything looks like down there. (My latest blog post is on this subject). Get used to it. Then, if you notice any changes, you can bring it up with confidence to your physician.
Can the two of you see a couples counselor? Sounds like you need help getting to the bottom of his anger and rude attitude.
As I read this again, it sounds like you're not married. Did you ask for the divorce? Or reject him in some way? It sounds like he's really mad at you.
Can the two of you see a couples counselor? Sounds like you need help getting to the bottom of his anger and rude attitude.
As I read this again, it sounds like you're not married. Did you ask for the divorce? Or reject him in some way? It sounds like he's really mad at you.
Usually it depends upon where you live. Every country is different. Currently, no state in the USA allows for sex under age 16. The age ranges from 16?18 and represents when a teen is legally considered mature enough to consent to sexual activity.
For information specific to you, Google age of consent laws and reference where you reside.
Usually it depends upon where you live. Every country is different. Currently, no state in the USA allows for sex under age 16. The age ranges from 16?18 and represents when a teen is legally considered mature enough to consent to sexual activity.
For information specific to you, Google age of consent laws and reference where you reside.
Furious?? That sounds like kind of a funny reaction if you ask me. To be furious sounds like you're making this about you.
Why don't you check in to see how he feels? Was it his decision? Was it what he wanted? How does he feel about the experience now? No one is old enough to consent to sexual activity at age 10 and most countries have age of consent laws to protect children from unwanted sexual attention. You didn't mention how old he is now; does he want to do it again?
Focus on your nephew and making sure he is doing okay.
I understand your anger but it doesn't help him. Try talking to a therapist about why your reaction was to be furious and what you can do with that energy to maybe help someone else in the future.
Furious?? That sounds like kind of a funny reaction if you ask me. To be furious sounds like you're making this about you.
Why don't you check in to see how he feels? Was it his decision? Was it what he wanted? How does he feel about the experience now? No one is old enough to consent to sexual activity at age 10 and most countries have age of consent laws to protect children from unwanted sexual attention. You didn't mention how old he is now; does he want to do it again?
Focus on your nephew and making sure he is doing okay.
I understand your anger but it doesn't help him. Try talking to a therapist about why your reaction was to be furious and what you can do with that energy to maybe help someone else in the future.