Embracing Your Desires – A Journey of Empowerment

Posted in   Dr. Lanae, Sexual Health   on  October 8, 2023 by  The MamaSutra minutes remaining

Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s close to my heart: embracing your desires as a journey of empowerment. Can you imagine being in a world where your wants and needs take center stage without hesitation or shame? Mindblowing.

Picture this: You’re at a crossroads and have two paths to choose from. One keeps you confined by societal expectations and self-doubt, while the other leads you toward fully embracing your desires. If you’re ready to select the path of empowerment (hint: it was the second one), I’m here for you.

We’ve talked about the fear of being “too demanding” in bed and how societal messages, often influenced by a patriarchal narrative, can play a role in suppressing our voices. But guess what? If this hasn’t been a fit for you, you have the power to rewrite that story and reclaim your agency. Right here, right now.

Think about it like this. Let’s say you’re an artist set on creating a masterpiece, each brushstroke a reflection of your unique expression. Similarly, embracing your desires is about expressing yourself authentically and unapologetically. It doesn’t mean to be a jerk. It means realizing that your pleasure, your needs, and your desires are all valid and deserving of celebration.

So, how do you embark on this journey of empowerment? Start by recognizing your worth. You are deserving of pleasure, connection, and fulfillment. Communicate openly with your partner – sharing these desires promotes intimacy and deepens your bond (of course, you both have to be ready to check the judgment at the door – that’s a killer of intimacy).

Think of it this way. You’re climbing a mountain with a backpack full of big rocks, and with each step, you’re letting go of one rock (the rocks representing the weight of societal norms and judgments). As you climb higher, you’re inching closer to the summit of self-discovery and acceptance, AND you feel lighter without that unnecessary weight you’ve been carrying.

Remember, embracing your desires can really feel like a radical act of self-love and affirmation. You’re basically defying all the “norms” that seek to silence you and standing up for your right to pleasure. You deserve relationships where your desires are met with acceptance – and even enthusiasm, where your voice is heard and where your pleasure is celebrated (and I want to encourage you to be that for your partner as well!).

As we begin to wrap up this series, I encourage you to continue your journey of empowerment. Embrace your desires, speak your truth, and celebrate your pleasure journey without inhibition. Stay tuned for more insights, stories, and discussions that will uplift and empower you on this beautiful path of self-discovery.


P.S., Ready to enter a world where your desires are honored and celebrated? I’m here to guide you on this journey of empowerment. Let’s talk and explore how you can fully embrace your desires with confidence and joy.

About the Author The MamaSutra

Dr. Lanae St.John is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology and certified sex coach with a background in sexology and a passion for helping people improve their sexual health and relationships. She is the author of "Read Me: A Parental Primer for "The Talk"" and the upcoming "You Are the One: How stopping the search and looking inside will lead you to your romantic destiny," and is committed to staying up-to-date on the latest research and trends in the field. Dr. St.John aims to share her knowledge and expertise in a relatable and approachable way through her blog on themamasutra.com.

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