It's not universally an unpopular option. But for those who do have issues with dating multiple people long term, it usually stems from
scripts in our society that people must be paired off and settle down.
that dating more than one person means they have commitment issues or cannot make up their minds.
most people cannot be honest, I mean really honest, about the fact that they're dating >1 person. So they do so unethically, behind everyone's backs.
they have a lot of judgment about the behavior and stigmatize those who do.
These are just a few off the top of my head. In my opinion, it boils down to a lack of positive experience with people who can date multiple people ethically and basic education about relationship configurations.
It's not universally an unpopular option. But for those who do have issues with dating multiple people long term, it usually stems from
scripts in our society that people must be paired off and settle down.
that dating more than one person means they have commitment issues or cannot make up their minds.
most people cannot be honest, I mean really honest, about the fact that they're dating >1 person. So they do so unethically, behind everyone's backs.
they have a lot of judgment about the behavior and stigmatize those who do.
These are just a few off the top of my head. In my opinion, it boils down to a lack of positive experience with people who can date multiple people ethically and basic education about relationship configurations.
Having sex and?Sleeping with someone are euphemisms that usually tie to the act of sexual intercourse.
Although, euphemisms like these can be problematic. For example, saying two people are sleeping together? can be confusing to people who aren't used to this language. Also, most adults know that you can sleep with someone in the same bed and not have it be sexual at all. Yet saying sleeping together can make people think something happened sexually when it didn't.
Having sex and?Sleeping with someone are euphemisms that usually tie to the act of sexual intercourse.
Although, euphemisms like these can be problematic. For example, saying two people are sleeping together? can be confusing to people who aren't used to this language. Also, most adults know that you can sleep with someone in the same bed and not have it be sexual at all. Yet saying sleeping together can make people think something happened sexually when it didn't.
What is a TF??
What is a TF??
Why? Perhaps you give off an attractive energy.
Or maybe the women are practicing on you in a low stakes situation - you?re married and maybe they?re not expecting you to act on it.
I?m not sure specifically what behavior is happening for being ?hit on?. Is it a flirty, sassy suggestive tone or a full on throwing their bodies onto you? I would need more detail.
Either way, I don?t see this as a ?bad? thing as long as YOU hold solid boundaries AND communicate them.
Don?t know what I mean? That you?re married and committed to your wife and don?t suggest otherwise (unless, of course, it?s within the relationship agreement with your wife?)
Consider this situation and put it into a different context:
Take being hit on as a good thing. Positive reinforcement. Let it put some spring in your step. Raise your chin a little more. Add a twinkle to your eye. Why? You still got it. Someone thought you were attractive enough for them to try to pick you up and there?s NO PRESSURE on you to act on it. Wow! What do you do with that energy? Think of it as foreplay with your wife for later.
And for your wife, I suggest that she see the attention you get as reinforcement of her excellent taste. Instead of feeling jealous, she can let it build her desire for sexy times later!
For me, flirting and getting hit on is an issue of perspective and context. I don?t see it as a bad thing?. Unless you?re feeling tempted. That?s a whole other question and answer.
Why? Perhaps you give off an attractive energy.
Or maybe the women are practicing on you in a low stakes situation - you?re married and maybe they?re not expecting you to act on it.
I?m not sure specifically what behavior is happening for being ?hit on?. Is it a flirty, sassy suggestive tone or a full on throwing their bodies onto you? I would need more detail.
Either way, I don?t see this as a ?bad? thing as long as YOU hold solid boundaries AND communicate them.
Don?t know what I mean? That you?re married and committed to your wife and don?t suggest otherwise (unless, of course, it?s within the relationship agreement with your wife?)
Consider this situation and put it into a different context:
Take being hit on as a good thing. Positive reinforcement. Let it put some spring in your step. Raise your chin a little more. Add a twinkle to your eye. Why? You still got it. Someone thought you were attractive enough for them to try to pick you up and there?s NO PRESSURE on you to act on it. Wow! What do you do with that energy? Think of it as foreplay with your wife for later.
And for your wife, I suggest that she see the attention you get as reinforcement of her excellent taste. Instead of feeling jealous, she can let it build her desire for sexy times later!
For me, flirting and getting hit on is an issue of perspective and context. I don?t see it as a bad thing?. Unless you?re feeling tempted. That?s a whole other question and answer.
I can see the question and the link but I cannot determine which ob/gyn the OP is referring to as frighteningly ignorant.
I can see the question and the link but I cannot determine which ob/gyn the OP is referring to as frighteningly ignorant.
Because they're likely pursuing women who haven't yet figured out the bad boy is bad news.
Shift your focus away from women who don't want what you have to offer. They're out there. I caught a nice guy and I'm sooo glad I did.
Because they're likely pursuing women who haven't yet figured out the bad boy is bad news.
Shift your focus away from women who don't want what you have to offer. They're out there. I caught a nice guy and I'm sooo glad I did.
Why is your period late?? I have to ask this: Have you had penis-in-vagina sexual intercourse? Is there any chance you could be pregnant?
If not, the lateness could be attributed to how new your period is. Some say it takes 1 to 2 years for a woman's cycle to become more regular. If you're not having sex and are otherwise healthy, don't let it worry you too much. Your body is figuring out its new ?normal?.
If this continues to concern you, you're always welcome to bring this up with your regular OB/GYN.
Why is your period late?? I have to ask this: Have you had penis-in-vagina sexual intercourse? Is there any chance you could be pregnant?
If not, the lateness could be attributed to how new your period is. Some say it takes 1 to 2 years for a woman's cycle to become more regular. If you're not having sex and are otherwise healthy, don't let it worry you too much. Your body is figuring out its new ?normal?.
If this continues to concern you, you're always welcome to bring this up with your regular OB/GYN.
Your boyfriend sounds like an ASS.
You can ask him how he got to be the judge of such things.
Look at the insecurity his question brought up in you! That?s not a good boyfriend thing to do. Even if he thinks offering such an observation is helpful he is ridiculous (Screw him and his super loose comment. His opinion is super loose). Be confident that your body is fine.
If you have any further questions about your body, ask your doctor. Not your boyfriend.
Your boyfriend sounds like an ASS.
You can ask him how he got to be the judge of such things.
Look at the insecurity his question brought up in you! That?s not a good boyfriend thing to do. Even if he thinks offering such an observation is helpful he is ridiculous (Screw him and his super loose comment. His opinion is super loose). Be confident that your body is fine.
If you have any further questions about your body, ask your doctor. Not your boyfriend.
Thank you for the A2A
The foot fetish might be seen as more popular just because it's talked about. The others, not so much.
People tend to keep their kinks quiet and undiscussed. It's too bad really? You don't hear about folks who think a Popeye forearm is sexy. I bet they're out there. Nurses used to have nice firearms when they had to pump up the blood pressure cuffs (now some doctors offices have a machine cuff that does it). Sexy forearms are a sign of fitness to me.
Just because feet are the only area really admitted as a fetish doesn't mean other body parts aren't also a source of turn on. ;)
Thank you for the A2A
The foot fetish might be seen as more popular just because it's talked about. The others, not so much.
People tend to keep their kinks quiet and undiscussed. It's too bad really? You don't hear about folks who think a Popeye forearm is sexy. I bet they're out there. Nurses used to have nice firearms when they had to pump up the blood pressure cuffs (now some doctors offices have a machine cuff that does it). Sexy forearms are a sign of fitness to me.
Just because feet are the only area really admitted as a fetish doesn't mean other body parts aren't also a source of turn on. ;)
The importance of virginity comes from men who want to control the sexuality of women.
More specifically, it's important for them to get YOU to believe it gives you more value.
Basically, virginity is a Social Construct and it is important only if YOU give it power. You don't have to though.
The importance of virginity comes from men who want to control the sexuality of women.
More specifically, it's important for them to get YOU to believe it gives you more value.
Basically, virginity is a Social Construct and it is important only if YOU give it power. You don't have to though.